Day 3- Live in the Moment

When you have a husband dying of terminal illness, emotionally and psychologically it has to be one of the most challenging situations in life. Jai Pausch had to deal with knowing her husband was dying and she would be left as a sole parent to their three kids.

I can not imagine the pressure and sadness Jai must have experienced- and still experiences today. In her last days with Randy, she decided to live in the moment. Take vacations you have always wanted to take with the one you love.

As a parent of two small children, my husband and I often let out relationship fall to the side as we give baths, bottles, and attention to the kids. We both work full time and come home to find ourselves still at "work" once at home. We love our kids dearly and wouldn't trade them for anything, but by the time we get them both to bed (8 on a good night), it is time to crash. Crashing prevents us from spending much needed time together.

We have gone to therapy regarding how to make our relationship better, and it always comes down to time together. We must schedule in time for each other and keep our relationship grounded for without us, there is no family.

Currently, we are trying to nickel and dime our way to a 7th anniversary getaway to Disney. We will have to keep this a secret from our 5 year old, but we think this might be just what our relationship needs. I can only dream of walking into Disney and being able to go wild like a kid with my best friend in the whole world. Our decision to spend this money may not be the best one in a recession, but after neglecting each other for five years, I think it is time. If my dolly were diagnosed with cancer tomorrow, I want to know that we enjoyed each other to the fullest while we were together, and right now we aren't there yet.

So for today, I take the lesson of living in the moment.

-God, may I always be appreciative of this day and what it has to bring. May I sometimes make rash decisions and enjoy the spontaneity of life. I pray that my husband and I always remember the foundation of our relationship: friendship and love. Please don't let the world pull us apart. Amen.